Style vs. Materialism

There’s style…

I believe in style, the ability to express through one’s outer layer, portraying a mood, character, or even another time.

It was somewhat of an accident when I stumbled into a five year stint selling designer jewelry at a luxury retail store. It was a college job which continued well after graduating. My professors teased me in school, wondering why the student writing prolific papers on human rights and conflict management was bejeweling the Dallas elite.

Raised by a single father, there was little money for shopping and little emphasis on a feminine appearance. My dad tried fixing up my hair when I was younger—it was a constant disaster.

I had this incredible urge to outwardly convey creativity and rummaged through thrift stores for sport. Unlike the head to toe chain store ensembles adorning most of the other kids my age, I looked unique. Despite being made fun of, I felt good about myself.

Then, there’s materialism…

Working in sales at a high-end store was a vast departure from the bargain bins and musty vintage I preferred. I made good money, but I never fit in.

When I got engaged everyone wanted to drool over an ostentatious diamond ring. I’ll never forget their shocked faces. My hemp engagement ring was unanimously lost on my coworkers and clients.

As you can imagine, half a decade in this posh environment loaded my brain with ammo. I was armed to the teeth with outlandish stories of the rich and famous, those keeping up with the Joneses, and of course, the employees who fell somewhere in between.

My next book, Everything’s Not Bigger, will release on November 10. The premise explores the choice between excessiveness and simplicity.

There’s a well known slogan in Texas…Everything’s Bigger in Texas. You’ll find it on t-shirts, bumper stickers, and shot glasses. The meaning is subject to interpretation, geographically referring to its size and often humorously referring to anatomy.

But, I see “bigger” on a deeper level.

What is bigger–an expensive car, an oversized house, an endless walk-in closet–is not better, leading to emptiness, a life of dissatisfaction. What is not bigger, that which bears no price tag in life, is priceless.

An excerpt from Everything’s Not Bigger…

The female customer species consisted of the same story told in various ways with the same predictable ending. These customers were either married or divorced, socialites or stay-at-home moms, surgically enhanced or scheduled to be.

Their husbands were prosperous business men spearheading the oil industry. They flew from one corner of the world to the other, cheating with any woman that came along, and there were many. Money was used to attract and pay, either with the works—a covert life with a limitless charge card and a sleek apartment—or just plain prostitution.

The wives took on boy toys in their lonely existence. Mainly they found solace in a guaranteed place—Lyman’s. They could walk in at any moment and feel good about themselves. Divorces were born out of these unhappy marriages; handsome settlements kept the ex-wife happy in her accustomed riches, and cleverly away from the royal fund. Marriages also continued in this manner, sustaining the perfect life manifestation.

Some of these women could legitimately afford to shop at Lyman’s, and bought everything with abyssal bank accounts. Most couldn’t maintain and maxed out their cards to saunter out with the stuff, only to wear and return it all immediately.

There was a harsh reality about the treasures at Lyman’s. The large-scale return regime of the wannabees and the moody elite turned this seemingly posh environment into what it truly was—a secondhand store and a pretty sham.

Shoes, jewelry, even the lingerie swam in a vicious cycle from one store to the next, one body to the next. Used then repaired, the illusion was complete with a freshly printed tag, small and neat, covered in a big, dirty price.

Working on straight commission, sales people scooped up valuable customers and ran away from the dreaded returners. They couldn’t ferret out every chronic returner. Newbie employees with unrefined returner radars particularly got stuck with them. They wasted hours coddling their customer’s egos only to have the bags emptied on the counter the next day, frequently the next hour.

Strangely enough, the employees ran parallel lives to the customers, both spending most of their lives and incomes in one marvelous place. Lyman’s credit cards were not encouraged, they were mandatory, adding more fashion slaves who couldn’t look rich and tried anyway.

A corresponding group of employees, gloating with plastic faces and disposable incomes, voluntarily chose to work there. Having found no other place they would rather be, this species preferred the company of resplendent merchandise and the elegant clientele, who were often their personal friends.

Lyman’s employees sparkled on the outside, exuding confidence when they had not a drop. Teetering in a state of materialistic psychosis, they never whistled while they worked. Day in and day out, a seductive hum circled through the air—sell, sell, then sell some more!

After a grueling stint in traffic, Jaye punched the grimy keys of the outdated computer in the back hallway. She was ten minutes late, and the all store meeting was about to begin.

Which Lyman’s category did Jaye Davis fall under? None of the above.

A Welcome Distraction

I live in a modest apartment. I use a secondhand dining room table as my rickety desk. I make words come to life by the speed of my thoughts and fingers.

This is how I write.

Along comes a cat. Yet I power through, attempting to ignore warmth for the sake of accomplishment.

Then, I surrender. Because a welcome distraction is always welcome. It reminds me of life—its tangibility, its humor, its comfort.

Today…get distracted.

My First Food Anomaly

Ah, the curious subject of food anomalies. People claim to see celebrities in their toast, animals in their crackers (pun intended), and UFO’s in their oatmeal. There’s even a Museum of Food Anomalies dedicated to this edible hoopla. Who knew?!

To this day I still childishly identify cloud shapes and have been patiently awaiting my very own food miracle. Well folks, here it is.

The hubby made salmon and sweet potato and carrot mash, one of my favorite meals. I was beside myself when I peered down at my plate.

I exclaimed, “My salmon looks like Africa!”

I took a picture, because who knows if something this monumental will every happen again. It had to be documented.

Then, the nerdy geography enthusiast side of me struck up an internal debate over whether or not the salmon looked more like Africa or South America. After carefully comparing the image with my world map, I’m leaning towards South America.

I think you guys should decide in this poll. And, please feel free to share any of your oddball food sightings in the comment section. You know it’s fun!

The Cuddle Tutorial

This week I’m shamelessly pimping out my cats, Aphrodite (the black and white one) and Hazel (the stripey one). Some of you already met Hazel during her happy dance debut.

There are a few reasons for this obligatory cuteness distraction: first and foremost, I’m knee-deep in you know what editing my second novel, therefore my brain is fried; secondly, I’m a crazy cat lady; lastly, they’re really cute.

Whether you’re into dogs or cats, furry friends teach us nonstop humans important lessons every day.

I leave you with a few quotes from famous felines. (Warning…this is intentionally silly.)

  • “The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the cuddle.” – Helen Kitten
  • “If you judge people, you have no time to cuddle them.” – Mother Purresa
  • “Kindness in cuddles creates confidence; kindness in cuddles creates profoundness; kindness in cuddles creates love.” – Meow-Tzu
  • “There is no remedy for love but to cuddle more.” – Henry Duclaw Thoreau
  • “When the power of cuddle overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.” – Kitty Hendrix

So, do what Aphro and Hazel do best and change the world with a cuddle.

Blog award lovin’ at its finest

Recently I was showered with blog affection from two incredible lady bloggers. I am perpetually awe-inspired by the resplendent connectivity in the blogging universe.

Every day we write, we read, and we feel together. It’s magnificent.

Thank you all for being so warm and welcoming, spreading the good vibe into a world that can always use it.

You may have noticed a physical perspective had a make-over this week. I think she looks pretty jaunty, don’t you?

Alrighty, onward to the honorary festivities!

The Liebster Blog Award is given to up-and-coming bloggers who have less than 200 followers. I won’t be in this company for too much longer as my blog grows, so I am happy to snatch up this award while I’m still a pup.

Thank you to my fellow newbie over at Scribble Of A Happy Go Lucky Gal. Check her blog out for some guaranteed fun. She’s a sassy force over there!

First I must answer 11 questions she cooked up:

  1. Which color do you think is best related to you?  Purple, because its vibrancy offends people sometimes.
  2. Who is the person you secretly admire and why?  My husband. He’s an all-around exquisite guy.
  3. If you have only 12 hours left in your life, what will be the 3 things you would love to do?  Buy plane tickets for my closest family and friends, travel to an exotic locale, and have an epic soiree.
  4. A perfect holiday for you is?  An adventurous destination, oozing with history and culture.
  5. Your Hubby/Boyfriend/Girlfriend can be best described as…  See #2.
  6. Which cartoon character are you?  Wonder Woman.
  7. What will you prefer to wear on your perfect date?  A vintage dress that makes me feel like a million bucks.
  8. If at all you get worldwide calling card free for 1 day, name the first 5 people you would immediately call.  My hubby, my dad, my mom, my sister, my cats.
  9. What is that thing which you wish your dear ones knew about you?  Even though I don’t seem like the type, I love getting hugs. They’re a necessity.
  10. Which one do you think is more important for a human being–love, money, power, fame…and why?  Love. Because it will never be transient.
  11. How do you describe your life?  Restlessly passionate.


I couldn’t quite scrounge up the required 11 nominations as the other blogs I follow are very established with 200+ followers, or have been awarded by yours truly recently. So, I must cheat by nominating the following 6 for the Liebster Blog Award (some of you may have more than 200 followers, but congrats anyway!):

And, here are some kooky questions for my nominated Liebsters to answer:

  1. If you lived in a box of crayons, which color would you be and why?
  2. What do you think is the strangest animal?
  3. There’s a fire in the house and you only have time to save three things. What are they?
  4. Beach, mountains, or desert?
  5. You just won the lottery. Donate and be rid of it or keep it all?
  6. Name five free things you like to do.
  7. Do you see yourself as a grown-up?

This is my second time receiving the Very Inspiring Blogger Award and I am equally thrilled. Much gratitude to Gail over at The Jotter’s Joint for bestowing this prestigious honor. Take a moment to scope her out as well. She’s funny, she’s graceful, she’s cool.

To accept, I must say 7 things about myself:

  1. I used to be obsessed with Josephine Baker. I always wanted her banana skirt.
  2. Living in Wisconsin has turned me into a beer connoisseur.
  3. I prefer to be barefoot. But, I love boots!
  4. I never tire of historic buildings.
  5. I’m a complex character and sometimes even annoy myself. See #2.
  6. I have an acute sense of smell. It’s a gift and a curse if you know what I mean.
  7. I don’t consider myself an adult.

Here are my 7 sprightly nominations for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award: