Intention to love in the new year

snow kisses

Here we are again. That time when we reflect on all that has happened and wonder what comes next.

For many of us, myself included, the coming of the new year carries some anxiety along with it. Did I live 2013 to its fullest? Will life be less awesome, as awesome, or more awesome in 2014?

The thing is, as long as we love we are living life to its fullest and life will be awesome. The rest of it – goals, money, things – they are radically insignificant.

Have dreams and do your best to soar, but don’t forget what’s right here on the ground. The family you don’t get to see enough, the spouse you are lucky to wake up next to, the friends you can share a ridiculous laugh or a magnificent cry with.

In 2014, I have a few bullet points I’d like to hit.

  • Publish my third book.
  • Get another stamp on my passport.
  • Continue a healthy life, including more meditation and Yoga.
  • Keep my closet clean.
  • Stop trying to do everything at once.

None of these are my resolutions. They are simply things I will work on throughout the year. Some will come easily, some will take a lot of work, and nobody will offer me a big, chintzy award for doing any of them.

Rather than a smattering of resolutions this year, I’d like to make a sankalpa instead.

A whaty-what?

Sankalpa is a Sanskrit word meaning “will, purpose, or determination”. While resolutions often channel a reprimanding energy toward ourselves – drink less, exercise more, (you get my drift) – a sankalpa is a positive intention.

When I look at my bullet points up there, I see that they are not particularly self-loathing, but I know I’ve made some tough love resolutions in the past. And, I’m sure many of you out there are struggling with the same right now.

So, I say…to hell with the tough love!

Let’s set a sankalpa together to love more. Your family, your spouse, your friends, and don’t forget yourself while you’re at it.

If we love more the rest of it becomes a little easier, the unattainable becomes attainable.

I always wonder what the world would be like if we all had the same intention, to focus more on love. I don’t know. It could be very awesome.

I would like to ask all of you to join me in this sankalpa to bring in the new year.

Chime in with some love in the comment section below. It can be anything you want, in any language you want: a famous quote, your unfamous quote, a list of people you love, a way that you can show your love more.

Thank you all for your beautiful support in 2013. You’re all lovely. Happy New Year.

32 thoughts on “Intention to love in the new year

  1. Roy McCarthy says:

    Britt, I don’t believe you can force love – it’s there or it isn’t. Just saying ain’t gonna make it so. Better in my opinion are positive expressions which you can control – kindness, understanding, co-operation, lending a hand – I’ll do mt best to show more of these things during 2014.

  2. Letizia says:

    Here’s to a year full of love!

    “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.” Pablo Neruda

    • Britt Skrabanek says:

      Good, because all the cool kids are in the “love more” pact. Rumor has it, there are plenty of snowballs and goats around to keep us honest and smiling. Wishing you tons of awesomeness in 2014, Sheila!

  3. Elizabeth G. Marro says:

    I found you through Pamela’s blog. What a wonderful way to start the new year. I never knew what a sankalpa was but I am glad to know of it. I will join you. Here’s to love and all the space, calm, listening, and being present that goes with it.

  4. cravesadventure says:

    LOVE is a Beautiful Word to Embrace for 2014!!! I wanted to share with you that I call the people I love in my life my GREATEST SOMEONE(S):) Happy New Year! I hopped over here from Sheila Hurst’s blog.

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