This post is going to horrify some of you. I’m willing to write it anyway, because I did something I never thought I would do. Something that took courage, something that took a lot of soul-searching, something that has already changed my life in just one week…
I decluttered my books.
I feared sharing this project with my bookworm friends would end badly, with an mob of intellects standing at my front door with pens instead of pitchforks. But the response was positive on Twitter—unless you all just favorited Aphrodite the panda cat photobombing this one.
Living in a studio, there is only so much clutter one can have. But when you’re living in a smaller space, the clutter you do have is very obvious. You have to get crafty with storage solutions, there is constant rearranging, and no matter what you do…it still feels messy.
In preparation for spring cleaning—something I always do in the winter so I can enjoy the beautiful weather when it comes—I read two books.
My mom and my sister received copies of Clear Your Clutter for their birthdays, because I knew they would love it. I flew through the book and it opened my eyes to a lot of decluttering ways I hadn’t considered before. The main question to ask yourself…does this lift me? If it doesn’t, you toss it.
Clear Your Clutter was my first time reading about getting rid of books, and I laughed. I cleaned out my closets and my bathroom—my books stayed put.
Then I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Without the feng shui aspect, this book is very straightforward about what you need to do—get rid of some shit.
But before you do, lay everything out so you can see it. If you’re working on your clothes, that means you pull out everything from your dresser and closet. Then you need to touch every item and make a decision…does this spark joy? Once again books were mentioned, but this time I listened to the argument.
If you’ve been lugging around books for years that are just collecting dust for the sake of decoration, is that bringing you joy? If you’re hanging onto books that someone gave to you that you will never read, old college textbooks you will never open, or fiction that you would never read again in your life, is that bringing you joy?
No. And, to get emotional here for a moment, because I truly believe books are our friends…this isn’t bringing them joy either. So last weekend I decided it was time to release them into the wild.
Easier said than done.
Some of you may remember that I had the bright idea to decorate the top of my kitchen cabinets with all of my books when I first moved into my studio in Portland a couple of years ago. I called it The Book Decor Workout, because strength and agility are a requirement when you’re using a ladder to organize your books.
This time was all about reverse engineering and not as difficult. But my hamstrings and upper body were put to work.
I followed the KonMari method by laying out all of my books on the floor, then holding each one to decide if it “sparked joy.” If you’re rolling your eyes right now, I have to say that there is something to this—especially when you’re a book lover parting with your sweet friends.
There are decisions that need to be made and I think it’s important to take your time when you’re taking on a decluttering project that involves emotional ties. You want to feel good about your choices. If you’re rushing through this project, you’ll either hang onto things you don’t really want or you’ll go too crazy and get rid of something you shouldn’t have.
Because we’re not talking about putting all of your books by the dumpster. (I just puked in my mouth a little.) We are talking about selecting the ones that still have meaning to you, then finding new homes for the rest.
In the image up there I have my two piles. The big pile on the left did not spark joy anymore, while the pile on the right did. Everyone is going to be different, but these are the books I decided to keep in my life.
CLASSICS YOU WANT TO KEEP
I had quite a few classics, some that dated back to my high school years. Yep, high school (aka a million years ago).
When I held these books, I remembered that well…I really didn’t like them that much. They were a reading assignment or one of those books you just had to read because it was a classic. Sometimes we hang onto books of this nature, because we feel smarter having them in our collection.
Who gives a shit? If Mark Twain isn’t your thing, let it go.
TOOLS YOU WILL ALWAYS TURN TO
Whether you’re a writer or you have another passion, there are some really awesome books that you will discover one day and they will become your trusted companions.
When you hold these books in your hand, you don’t get all jazzed up over the story inside—you will probably feel steadier. A book like the Emotion Thesaurus has been my confidante during the editing stages of several of my books, and that made me happy. It was a tool that helped me write a better novel.
I also ended up hanging onto all of my old Yoga books from my teacher training. They are friends I will always turn to when I need them.
IMAGES THAT ENERGIZE YOU
I wasn’t sure what was going to happen when I got to my coffee table books, which are mainly travel related but I do have one beastly one, American Fashion. I barely had to hold these, because as soon as my eyes landed on the covers, I got energized.
In reality, I will probably never go to all the places in the world I want to see. Books like these allow me to escape without the cost of leaving my house.
WORDS OF LOVE
I’ll admit I haven’t picked up my poetry books in years, but I reconnected with them the day I brought them down to hold them in my hands. And one of them had a beautiful inscription from my dad. There was no way I was going to part with this one.
So, this bunch was more about the words inside of them for me. All of the poems were too lovely for me to let go.
CHILDHOOD FAVORITES THAT SHAPED YOU
These are the books you first read as a child, but you read them again and again throughout your life. When I held these books, I remembered the feeling of the first time I read it. It was a little bizarre.
The wonderment I felt when I read these stories absolutely shaped me into becoming a writer. If an author had the ability to connect with me in such a way, to steer my imagination, I knew I wanted to try to do that too someday.
All together I decided to keep 60 books. I sold 19 (mainly old college textbooks) and I am donating 124 books to our wonderful Oregon libraries.
I have not felt any regrets. On the contrary, I have felt much happier—lighter even. That yummy feeling has been oozing into other aspects of my life.
Since early adulthood, I have dutifully moved my books across multiple states and made room for them in my home. Years later my books were covered in dust and cat hair, and because some of them were above the stove, they were speckled with kitchen grease.
Until last weekend, I hadn’t opened the majority of them and they were stiff as they moved in that unfamiliar way as lost pictures, receipts, and college papers spilled onto the floor. Many of my books were no longer loved. Now that I’m letting them go, they will find love again.
Have you decluttered your books? Or, do you find it too hard to part with your friends?
P.S. This was a helpful post I used to make the change.
49 thoughts on “Releasing Your Books So They Can Find Love Again”
Yes, I admit, I like the Panda cat photo bomb. How could I not?
You did a good thing by decluttering your books and donating them. I always feel lighter in mind and spirit when I do that.
I like the idea of touching each book before deciding to keep or donating. I’ll have to do that next time I do a book cleaning. xoxo
Panda cat photo bombs are hard NOT to love. I totally feel lighter in mind and spirit. I’m attacking the kitchen today. Not sure I need to fondle my glasses and bowls as much, but I’ll try it. 🙂
A task well done! I have decluttered some of my bookshelves but some more could be released. Fortunately, we have a gorgeous second hand bookshop near by and I have no problem with giving my books over to their care. I have done the KonMari tidy up of my drawers but they need redoing already. If I were to have a dream home, it would be small and decluttered but there would be a big storage shed with lots of lovely organised shelves with all my possessions. And every now and then I would go to the storage shed and bring in just the books, ornaments, pictures, china that I was in the mood for. And what was in the house could be given away or put back in storage. 🙂 Dream on!
That’s great that you have a secondhand bookshop close to you. We have Powell’s out here, but they’re such a popular store that I wanted to avoid going in there.
Yeah, I tried her drawer tips and found that hasn’t been working very well for me. 😦
😦 What I would really like is to have her visit and help me with everything!
I could not declutter my books, not in a million years! I even hold on to the ones I’ve hated. One way or the other, they’ve earned a space on my shelves and I would feel wrong renting their position to some other book. Haha, does that make sense?
I loved seeing A Wrinkle in Time there! Did you know it’s the first of five books? I acquired a box set with all five, but haven’t had the time to sit and read them. I want to give them my full attention!
Oh, Zen! I know all about your book loving ways. 🙂
A Wrinkle in Time was one of my faves. I knew they were part of a series, but I haven’t read the others. Are they as good? I don’t want any of the magic to go away if I try reading them and they can’t compete with the first.
Haven’t read the other books yet! The collection is sitting neatly on my shelf, but I haven’t had the time yet. 😦
Yes! I just did this so that I could get my boxes of books down to 48 for our move. I let go of a couple of hundred books. AND we let go of a lot of other things especially the stuff cluttering our garage. Craigslist Free is a wonderful invention. It made us feel like small-time philanthropists. We will use it more.
I know you guys just moved, so that always helps. Though our place is small, we have started accumulating stuff over the past two years.
If we ever need to get rid of something, we tend to leave it in the trash room of our apartment building. That’s always an unspoken giveaway zone in apartments. Our patio chairs came from the trash room. Cleaned them up and voila! 🙂
A giant boulder stood just inside the entrance to our old apartment building. Everyone called it “the giving rock.” Our son would often come back from the mailbox, carrying something he’d found on the rock. Sometimes he got to keep things, other times, we sent him back before it could take up space in our apartment. We always knew when someone was moving out since the rock would be inundated with stuff. We placed things on the rock when we left. It was a fantastic way to turn unwanted items into treasure. We have also recently discovered Craigslist Free. A great way to get rid of items that other people may want.
I love books too, but I have always been choosy about which books to buy. I will only buy the ones that I know I will re-read, or that affected me deeply, etc. This is mainly because I am a minimalist at heart and have never been one to live in too much much-ness! I love seeing books going to new homes where they will be adopted and loved all over again. Books deserve to touch many lives!
I hear ya, honey! With the exception of indies I can only read electronically, I stick to library books now. I’m able to test drive books this way and decide if I will reread them again. If so, I’ll purchase them to keep around.
I declutter every six months or so and then do a big one every two years or so. You described the experience so well because, in the end, it really is a positive one. And, it makes room for new books!
I imagine you have to declutter books quite a bit, Letizia doll! I love the idea of making space for new books and for other things in life. I totally believe that works.
I am a passionate declutter-er. I’ll clear my house of just about anything the moment it ceases to be useful. That said, getting rid of books does give me pause. I do pare them down, but I do it with a little touch of melancholy.
I’m a neat freak in general, Mike, but I’ve always steered clear of my books. Glad I finally took the plunge. The next hard step for me will be my keepsakes. I’ve been hanging onto a few tubs of them and I need to address those once and for all. I read a tip about taking photos of things, so you can still “keep” them around. Going to give that a try!
Good luck. And good riddance to junk!
Oh, I did this years ago and now carefully consider before keeping a book. Most are given to friends or donated, with an admonition to pass the love when finished. And I feel lighter!
It does make you feel lighter, doesn’t it? Always awesome to find good homes for our cherished books.
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