Happiness. We put so much pressure on that single word, don’t we?
It’s all too easy to get stuck in this mental cycle of thinking happiness will magically arrive once we get something we thought we wanted more than anything else—when we accomplish something we worked our asses off to get.
I’ll be happy when I get that promotion.
I’ll be happy when I buy that house.
I’ll be happy when I write that book.
Do we feel happy after obtaining or accomplishing any of these things? Not for very long. Like coming down from a high, we crash and we wonder where it all went wrong.
Hey, what happened to my happiness I deserve? I worked so hard for it, and now it’s gone.
The build-up we attach to thinking happiness comes after a certain thing causes this self-destructive roller coaster of emotions.
As a writer, I know this feeling well. And I see it all the time in other writers.
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Okay, that’s the teaser for the guest blog post I wrote over at Chris Stocking’s place.
To celebrate the relaunch of his website, my good friend asked me and a couple of writers to kick off christopherstocking.com with some good old fashioned writing about writing.
Head on over, read the rest of the piece, and check out his new pad. (And, make sure to bring Chris some good beer, since I know he worked hard on everything.)
Cheers, Chris!
Great post Britt and such wisdom! Yes, if happiness is not a ‘thing’ or a ‘destination’ it’s more about how much we enjoy and appreciate the journey, right? When I’m in doubt, I start singing and then I remember that saying; “I don’t sing because I’m happy. I’m happy because I sing”. And the singing can be replaced by anything you love to do..(writing 😉 )
The journey is soooooooooooo important, but it’s all too easy to get caught up in the destination. I want to get there, something magical is going to happen then…and not until then. Of course, we’re missing it, aren’t we? That mentality causes us to miss out on the simple pleasure and pain of life.
We’d all like to hear you sing in a vlog, please. 🙂
hmm..don’t get your hopes up too high :p
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